DENIAL

Denial is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud, in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence. I deny that I am NOT the best. It makes me happy. I feel whatever I do is perfect and the best. Wow! what a great feeling. I feel content. Living in the river of denial is a hard cold swim, but it’s a lot more safe and makes one feel satisfied with life.

I deny that I hurt someone. I deny that I have not been what I should be. I deny that what I said might have made the second person get watery eyes. I deny that I could have done better. Well, why am I doing this ? Because I don’t know where I get wrong.

It is well known that it’s impossible to attain perfection. Another fact, which I never read anywhere, but I believe is that it can’t be attained by anyone by himself. A second person IS mandatory for pointing out the deficiencies of perfection. And this is where the conundrum starts. For one person what defines perfection may not be the same as the other person. So who to consider as the appropriate second person to help in achieving perfection. Maybe parents, maybe love, maybe significant half, maybe friend; but then if perfection is attained in terms of one of these, it might not be in terms of the second one. Another facet is that the second person might not be able to come forward with his/her views thinking it might hurt.

Hence, the best road to follow is to denial of what others say. Be confident, n perfect for self. It is self esteem that matters at the end of the day.

~ by Shekhar on June 18, 2008.